This transition may be the theme of a person's entire life. A new stage of consciousness comes into play as one sees that one's story can be changed by them . Then, one's life becomes 'in their hands', and they feel a new sense of control. One may look back on their parent's life and wince, seeking to do better. The Self-Help Trap 🔵 may stumble upon a self-help book or video, and become interested in self-improvement. What a miracle it is that I can change my own life! I can increase the amount of money I make, the quality of women I attract, etc. all by my own individual will. 🔵 should be aware of the very serious self-help trap, where they get addicted to consuming self-help content as infotainment- filling one's mind up with knowledge and not really doing anything with it out of fear- instead of getting an insight, using it, getting another insight, using it, etc. 🔵 is also called the Rule / Role Self. The Trap of Certainty Imagine that identity is a liquid- always changing, and takes the shape of it's container: growing up in Afghanistan, you'd be more likely to become a Muslim- growing up in Louisiana, you'd be more likely to become a Christian. At around the age of 16, I began to view identity like this, and foresaw a deep and harrowing trap that had claimed many adults: the hardening of one's identity. As it sets, it becomes harder to change. 🟠 discovers that they are able to affect the mould, and this is the joy of adolescence- the belief that every aspect of our entire life is ours to determine, if we do what's necessary, at sometimes it may get hard. 🟠 looks at each area of their life and chooses what they want, then they do whatever it takes to make it happen. As they discover that they must change the way they use the mind to go from broke to rich, unattractive to attractive, unsuccessful to successful, etc., they even choose what they want from their mind. This trap is what's responsible for the belief 'nothing can be done', 'my life will never change'. Even chronic hopelessness (depression) is certainty. This statement is certainty. Each statement here can be read with healthy skepticism.